Glorifying God in Singleness


Being single is often frowned upon in the Christian community. What’s even worse is when someone says that they want to be single, that they would rather not get married and/or have children. Anyone who says this, aside from nuns or the Pope, is thought to be ungodly and selfish. After all, critics will say, God made Eve to compliment Adam. He told them to be fruitful and multiply. A marriage relationship is, without a doubt, considered sacred by God. The importance of marriage is highlighted in these verses:

The Lord said, “It is not good for a man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” – Genesis 2:18

“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” – Proverbs 18:22

Some people will use these verses to justify their claim that marriage is a necessary rite of passage for good Christians. However, these verses do not mean that someone has to get married to glorify God. The Lord wants us to treat marriage with the utmost honor and respect, similar to how we treat our relationship with Him. Yet sometimes, the best way to honor the bond of marriage is to remain single. Consider these verses:

Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”

“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

“Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?”

Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”

The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.”

Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others–and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.”- Matthew 19:3-12

Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. – Corinthians 7:8-9

I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord. – Corinthians 7:32-35

As the verses above explain, marriage is a wonderful thing. If you want to get married then you should. However, a person should get married for the right reasons. A couple should make their vows fully intending to spend the rest of their lives together because that is how God designed marriage to be. If a person gets married for any reason other than complete love and devotion to their spouse, then is it really worth the trouble? Is it necessary to tie yourself to someone for life just for the sake of doing so? I see so many Christians waiting, begging God to send them a spouse for one reason or another. They don’t want to be alone. They want to have children. They don’t believe that adulthood starts until one is married. They believe that marriage is in God’s plan for them and they just can’t understand why He hasn’t sent them Prince or Princess Charming yet. I have fallen into this way of thinking in the past, which is easy to do, especially as a Christian woman. However, anyone who thinks these things is missing the point of God’s plan for them and for marriage in general.

There are several verses that compare the world’s relationship with God to a wife’s relationship with her husband:

“ I saw the Holy City, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of Heaven from God, prepared as a bride beautifully dressed for her husband.” – Revelation 21:2

Jesus chose to love the world as a husband loves his wife and vice versa. And when Christ died for us, He did not do so because He was lonely or because He thought we had anything to offer Him. He did it because He loved us with selfless, crazy devotion. Do not marry someone unless you feel the same way about them. Jesus and His disciples were able to glorify God in their singleness. We can do the same if we choose to.

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11 thoughts on “Glorifying God in Singleness

  1. Taria Shondell says:

    This is a great post! I just shared some of your scriptural references with my husband. It is awesome that you use scripture in the context it was written and not manipulating it to fit a certain point of view. It is always wonderful to “meet” a fellow believer!


    • emberlivingblog says:

      Thank you Taria! I am going to lead a bible study next semester so it’s great to hear that I’m on the right track and using scripture in the right context. Nice to “meet” you too!


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